No matter how hard we try, we often feel unhappy and disconnected on a daily basis. Some people end up spending huge amounts of money trying to correct this, other seek refuge in vices such as drink and drugs to numb out the feeling of separation and misery. Even when we are trying our best we can end up asking ourselves why we aren’t feeling happier. It can just take a review of our daily habits and little tweak in our behaviour to improve things. What we do on a consistent basis can make or break our happiness, no matter how good of a person we are.
Here is a simple guide of little things we can do that can add more happiness to our every day life:
1. Smile more and complain less-
It’s true not only does smiling release endorphins like serotonin (the happy drug) into the system but it is contagious and will attract equally joyful people to you. Constantly winging just reminds one of ones troubles again and again and makes them real, constantly talking about the same negative stuff won’t fix it, sometimes it best to just smile and move on.
2. Connect with people and friends-
Lonely people are more likely to succumb to illness and die sooner. Humans thrive on company and those that thrive survive. Connecting with friends and loved ones immediately brings us joy and helps us to feel safe.
3. Spend more time with supportive family-
Everyone needs support, life is hard and who better to share it with and shift those hardships than with those who know you and love you the most?
4. Help others in need-
I was told once that you attract that behaviour to you that you dole out, so if you are cruel and selfish you are most likely to have a limited and impoverished experience in life and attract similar people. If you are generous and kind those qualities all come back to you ten fold in all sorts of mysterious ways, try it, it really works.
5. Be more optimistic about life and the way things will turn out-
No matter how hard things get, letting troubles overcome you is a sure fire way to sinking into hopelessness and depression. However being grateful and upbeat about everything you do have will automatically lift your spirits and chemically rewire your brain into a positive state so that your entire energy field will change to help you attract that which you deserve.
6. Plan a trip or a holiday-
There is nothing worse than having nothing to look forward to, especially in the hum drum and monotony of life. Regardless of your economical status, try and plan a trip, it doesn’t have to be an all inclusive luxury holiday, even a trip to the woods to see the spring flowers is great . Remember a change is always as good as a rest. If you book it early enough you can get some great deals and spend lots of time day dreaming, researching and planning your exciting adventure.
7. Learn to forgive-
Hoʻoponopono (ho-o-pono-pono) is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. Similar forgiveness practices were performed on islands throughout the South Pacific, including Samoa, Tahiti and New Zealand. It means ‘I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you’. It’s just one practise of many that focuses on forgiveness of self and others. In the space of forgiveness one can find peace and unconditional love, ultimate freedom and happiness.
8. Set new goals and achieve them-
It’s so easy to slip into the comfort zone in life, but as the old adage says;
‘The comfort zone is a beautiful place but nothing ever grows there’.
It’s true, to grow, test our boundaries and reset our limits we have to keep reaching for more. Life should be about aspiration and dreams, the things that make our hearts beat faster will lead us on the road to increased happiness. No matter what you choose to do and how hard it feels, don’t give up.
9. Do yoga or meditation-
Finding stillness in an increasingly noisy and frenetic world will help us to hear our inner voices and find ultimate peace. Yoga and meditation are some of the best practises to attain this inner silence, as well as being excellent tool to help us unwind and calm down at the end of a day.
10. Get a pet – and interact with the pet-
Animals can be some of the most loyal and affectionate beings on the planet, and it’s well documented that interacting with animals reduces stress and anxiety in people. The simple altruistic act of caring for another being automatically fills ones being with love and happiness, not to mention offers a home for a creature in need.
11. Get some time off of work-
We don’t live to work, we work to live, but in todays day and age where working seems to have become one of the main focuses in life, it’s easily forgotten that life comes first. Take some time off, do something you love with people you love, pull the odd sickie, be spontaneous, remind yourself that you are the boss of your own life and no one else.
The body needs oxygen to keep it in its top physical state, and exercise increases the flow of this in the blood. Even when you are feeling down, instead of blobbing out in front of a screen, take a walk in nature or go for a run, you will feel tonnes better afterwards, I promise.