Everybody knows what being bullied feels like. If anyone told you that bullying stops when you get out of middle school, be cautious, bullying comes in many forms and at all stages of life.
The American Psychological Association defines bullying as, “a form of aggressive behavior in which someone intentionally and repeatedly causes another person injury or discomfort. Bullying can take the form of physical contact, words or more subtle actions.”
Bullies aren’t confined to the playground; they can be your boss, an intimidating colleague, a controlling romantic partner, or even a family member. It’s important to understand the different forms of bullying so that you can identify a bully in your own life. It’s also important to know how to handle them.
Here are four common types of bullying, and at the end, how to get rid of the bully in your life.
1. Cyber Bullying
Cyber bullying is a form of bullying that has occurred rather recently, and it involves harassment through the Internet. As it becomes easier and easier to connect to one another through technology, it also becomes easier to bully others who may be in different locations. Identity theft is even considered a form of cyber bullying, and people experience verbal abuse, passive aggressiveness, and other negative behaviors via the Internet every day.
2. Tangible Bullying
Tangible bullying has to do with the use of one’s formal power, or title, to intimidate others. This form of bullying usually involves the workplace and a threatening boss or colleague. Essentially, the bully uses his or her status in order to dominate or control others. Proof that bullying doesn’t just exist within schools.
3. Physical Bullying
Phsyical bullying is the most easily identifiable type. It involves intimidation, threat, harassment, or harm through the use of violence. Simulated violence is also considered a form of physical bullying, which can look like a raised fist as if about to strike, or throwing objects near a victim. Domestic violence, rape, extortion, and personal space violation are all included in physical bullying.
4. Verbal Bullying
Unlike physical bullying, this is a form confined only to the use of words. However, verbal threats, shaming, hostile teasing, insults, and constant judgement can all be just as damaging as physical harassment.
Racism, sexism, and homophobic behavior tend to fall under this category of bullying, something innocent people experience on a regular basis.
In order to deal with a bully, no matter what form of abuse your bully chooses to undertake, you have to understand how a bully operates. They purposefully prey on who around them they perceive as weak. As long as you remain passive, you’ll remain a target. However, bullies are bullies because they are actually cowards in reality. Showing bravery and backbone will usually cause a bully to back down. Stand up for yourself, and you won’t be a target.