“To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect,” wrote Criss Jami.
Soulmates are not born. They are made. They don’t have to be romantic in nature, either. Your soulmate may be a sibling, a creative partner, or a best friend. You may have two soulmates, or even more over the course of your life. These connections are treasured, and they are felt to the core of our being.
Here are four signs you have made a soul connection:
1. You become more patient and understanding than you used to be.
Things that would irritate you in other people just don’t have the same edge when they come from your soulmate. You are no longer quick to anger. Because you understand your partner’s heart, you are able to forgive more easily. Their motivations are clear to you in a way that they just aren’t with other people. You are able to see your soulmate as a whole human being, and not as the sum of their actions. With some hard work, you may even be able to harness this grace and extend it to include others in your life.
2. You are very physical with one another.
You do not have the same personal boundaries with your soulmate as you do with other people. In a romantic relationship, this may mean you have a powerful sexual attraction and can’t keep your hands off of one another. In a platonic friendship or family connection, this could manifest as play-fighting, frequent hugs, hand-holding, or snuggles on the couch. Your closeness is not just an abstract emotional concept. It can be physically seen in the way you interact with your bodies.
3. You are, irrevocably and undeniably, in it for the long haul.
You can absolutely not imagine living the rest of your life without this person. You are fully committed to one another’s happiness in the way most married couples hope to be. Whether you are considering having a baby, starting a small business, or buying a house, your partner is your sounding board for every major decision in your life. You support their dreams, and they support yours. You are doing this thing together.
4. You feel compelled to give them your full attention.
We live in an age of constant distraction. Most of us are at least somewhat conscious of giving our loved ones our undivided attention when they need it – but does it come naturally? In most cases, we need to be intentional when it comes to putting our phone away, listening actively, and engaging with empathy. In the context of a soul connection, however, this happens with no effort at all. We want nothing more than to be present with our loved one. As such, communication flourishes and our connection grows even stronger.
“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being,” wrote John Joseph Powell.
If you have a soulmate like this, treasure them. Love them. Hold them close. These relationships are rare, and they just might be the most valuable thing on this earth.